Introducing Role-Play Into Your Sex Life

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A Fantasy is anything that intensifies the sexual experience.
  -> The Weather
  -> The Time Of Day
  -> The Location
Are simple elements that may enhance the sexual experience between you and your partner.

Let go of any expectations about elaborate role-play that may intimidate you from the beginning.

Go Back To Basics
Role-play and fantasy do not have to include elaborate costumes, props, and rehearsed scenarios. Free yourself from the shackles of whips and chains (although, by all means, use them later if you want!).

Start From A Place Of Reassurance
Talking about sex can be tricky, especially when you’ve never done it before. Frequently, there is the fear that if we speak our desires aloud, our partner will shame us or they will feel like they have failed to satisfy us in the past. Insecurity and vulnerabilities swirl around our sexual selves.
Start by reassuring your partner that you enjoy what you do have.
Ask them if they’re comfortable talking about fantasy.
Start slowly, ease into these conversations.
  In the sanctuary of your erotic mind, you can be anything or anybody you want.

Alternatively, write a note. Or speak on the phone, which allows an intimate distance. Of course, the earlier you open up this dialogue in a relationship, the easier it is.
  Nevertheless, start from today because that is where you are now.

Talk More And Try More
The door is open to dialogue and for you to share your fantasies.
Conversation about fantasy is about play, curiosity, transcending the limits of reality, and moving beyond your usual boundaries.
You can test out fantasies through talking ("Is there something you’ve always wanted to try?"), but you can also test through action. We act, we see, and we wait for a response, then we try again.

For instance, if you start kissing your partner on the couch, but they are pulling you toward the bedroom, they are showing you what they are comfortable with.
This can also raise an opportunity to express your desire to have sex in the living room.
Through a combination of action and words, allow yourself to be playful and open.

Get past shame…
Try: Knock on the door and say, "Hello, room service is here."

As children we all know, you need a playmate to play.

If you are shamed or rejected when you start to play a game, you retreat into yourself.
  So, willingness is key. But so is the ability to try again if the door is not opened the first time.

Bring In A Third (No, Not That Kind Of Third)
Maybe use a third item, a transitional object… such as a book, a movie, or an overheard conversation to allow for fantasy and play to enter their sexual experiences. Reading to each other, for instance, can be a way to create desire.
    Fantasy is simply anything that intensifies the sexual experience.
A movie or book allows for you to ask questions like "Is that something you'd be interested in trying?" or "Does that turn you on?"

Do It Yourself
In the sanctuary of your erotic mind, you can be anything or anybody you want.

So as well as cultivating mutual experiences, you can step into a different body or role inside your own mind…
   You are free to fantasize when you're with your partner.

You can imagine you are taller, younger, skinnier, more powerful, less powerful, and on it goes. You can go beyond the limits of your own conscience, body type, or abilities, particularly when you have a partner you feel safe with.

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